Do you ever feel like you're not living up to your full potential?
Is life just one long continuous struggle for you?
Do you ever wonder why you can't make yourself do the things you know you need to do?
Do you know what causes all of these problems?
Here's the short list: pain, regret, guilt, fear, anger...If you are struggling with one of the issues listed above, most likely it's because you're holding on to one of these.
If you find yourself blaming others or circumstances for your problems, you are hanging on to one of these killers.
If you have developed the habit of making excuses, you are inflicted with at least one of these diseases.
If you want to push through your mental and emotional barriers, it's time to get honest with yourself. Which one are you infected with? Pain, Regret, Guilt, Fear, or Anger. All of these diseases are terminal. If you don't get honest about which one(s) you are infected with, it will kill you.
It will kill every relationship you have.
It will undermine and sabotage every endeavor you pursue.
It will keep you from making the impact in the world that you are capable of.
So which one is it? Write it down. Name it so you can begin to confront it. Start taking actions to lean into it instead of avoiding it. Start today.
Who do you need to confess a sin to, and ask for forgiveness?
Who do you need to have a difficult conversation with? ...an argument with?
What do you need to let go of and forgive yourself for?
What hurt do you need to let go of and stop being angry at the person or people who hurt you?
The biggest reason why most people live with their problems and struggles is because they actually believe that dealing with them will be more painful. It probably will be...at first. This is where you have to simply toughen up and be willing to take the pain. Avoiding it isn't resolving anything. It's just holding you back. The longer you wait to confront whatever it is you need to confront, the more painful it will be. Therein lies the answer. Waiting another ten years to deal with it isn't going to make it fix itself. Waiting doesn't empower you to let go and move on. In fact, waiting does the opposite. Waiting gives your problem more power over you and robs you of your power to fix it.
The great thing is, you don't have to do this alone. Odds are high that you already have someone in your life who can help you with this. The first step is humbling yourself and asking for help. Be honest about your struggle and don't hold back. Be totally honest and transparent. Don't worry about being judged or what they are going to think of you. If you talk to someone who cares about you, they will have mercy on you and want to help because they love you. Who can you talk to about this?
The best place to start, no matter what your challenge is, is God's Word. Even if you haven't read the Bible in years, or ever, it is still the best place to start. If you don't own a Bible download the You Version app or the Bible Gateway app onto your device. Then just open it to Luke 15 and start reading. This is the best place to start if you are totally out of ideas on how to address you issues. Don't stop there though. Take the next step.
The next step, once you have begun to go to God's Word for answers is to join a
Bible study group. This group will help you understand more completely how God can help you. They can help you understand how God, in fact, already has done everything necessary to help you. It is because Jesus Christ died on the cross for all of your sins that you can let go of all of your worries, your anger, and your fears. In Christ, you are free from all of your guilt because He has payed the price for all of your sins and wrong-doings. You can forgive yourself, because Jesus has already forgiven you. This is what a good Bible study group will help you understand.
This doesn't mean that you don't have to resolve past conflicts with others. This means that through Jesus you have the power and ability to forgive those who need to be forgiven, confess any wrong doing to anyone you have wronged, and ask to be forgiven by anyone that you have hurt or wronged. This won't be easy, but it will change your life. It will free you from the emotional baggage you have been carrying around.
Most importantly, as the Holy Spirit empowers you to look to Jesus and trust in Him, your eternity will change. As you continue to study God's Word and grow in faith you can be assured that you are a redeemed child of God and the cares, concerns, and fears of this world don't have any real power over you. You can be assured that because of what Jesus has done for you, you will spend eternity with Him in heaven.
Now get started! Stop waiting!
God bless
Jason Fredrick